Surprised at no comments on the subject of secrets. When I was younger I thought I had good secrets. Things mama did not know that I was hoping she would never  find out. Those things like sneak outs when she was asleep were empowering to a child but also a source of anxiety and other dangers I could have run into out there. There were also the already bad secrets that I wanted her to know but was afraid to tell. Secrets really do protect villians rather than victims